From notes of the Spring Retreat, 2013: Three Classes of Men
It is interesting to me that, in some respects, the third way, the way of “active indifference,” [aka detachment] is the easiest and the most difficult. It is the easiest in that, at least initially, there is nothing external to do. It is the most difficult in that it demands of me an initial and then continual commitment to remain “actively indifferent” to the holdings, loosely in the hand, as it has been described, and to actively listen for God’s guidance in what action to take. The criterion is the better service and praise of the Divine Majesty.
Jesus was always “actively indifferent” to all things created, from his own mother, though he loved her above all creation, to social niceties of the company he kept, the people he touched, the sins he forgave, the diseases he cured, where he slept, what he ate, etc., etc. etc. He simply not just had faith in but beyond that to a degree presumed and allowed His Father to provide for things that He, as the Son of God, could easily have done.
Mary was another chief exemplar of this type of indifference, her criteria being what was of the greatest praise and service to God, seeming to give up her virginity in the light of possible public and personal castigation, expressing her grief at the temporary absence of her son but being shown it was in the interest of the Father, being indifferent to what Jesus did with the information concerning the wine but knowing God would decide how she might best serve Him, acknowledging that hearing the word of God and keeping it was equal to being the mother of the Savior, staying at the foot of the cross and relinquishing her Son’s life which she had sacrificed to bring into the world, believing that it would be for the greater praise and glory and service of the Father to do so.